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Who Do You Trust ?

by Antonia

It might seem obvious, but who do you really trust, entirely? Yourself? Family? Friends? Partner?

I personally don’t think I have an answer to this. It’s a strange question to ask yourself, as the first thing that comes to mind is yourself. Of course I trust myself the most out of anyone. Why wouldn’t I? You have to be able to fully trust yourself, right? But when you dive deeper, you can have a biased view as to what decisions you’re making. That saying ‘do you follow your head or your heart’ is very true in the sense they’re both yours, but most of the time, they give you two completely different answers. But if you don’t trust yourself entirely, who do you trust? Whose guidance do you follow without question?

Family is a very strange thing. Depending on the dynamics, and the desired outcome they want for you. My experience of some family members, is that they might not want you to fulfil your full potential, to make their situation feel better or they don’t want you surpassing their accomplishments. Sometimes, especially older family members can want to live their life again through you, and from time to time that means completely forgetting what’s best for you, and just what’s best for their ideal life, for you. Their life might’ve been limited so they see a profession lower or higher than your expectations, and want to drive you into doing that. And that might hold you back.

There’s usually a fair amount of jealousy, especially in siblings. And sometimes it can get so toxic, that they’ll just say the complete opposite from what’s actually right for you just to make you stay in your lane and so you know your ‘boundaries’. It gets like a competition when really they should just be happy for you. I remember when I was invited by a modelling agency to come to their offices, and my sibling said ‘that means nothing. They would’ve invited me too’. It sounds like I’m joking, it should’ve been a joke! But trust me, they were being deadly serious. Why is there even a comparison? So petty. Sometimes it can feel like you’re suffocating. The feeling you’re the same as everyone else and no different.

Friends? I think it depends on the friend, but for me I wouldn’t put my head on a block. I don’t think they have that many loyalties to you. Sometimes they truly do want the best for you, but some don’t. How are you meant to figure out one from the other? If you fully trust a person you don’t really question them. And that can end you in hot water. Or unhappy in life. I mean if you can’t fully trust your own flesh and blood, how are you supposed to have that faith in a friend? They say ‘blood’s thicker than water’ for a reason don’t they?

Partner? I mean you should be able to trust them. Completely. But there’s a fine line between 100% trust and naivety. If a woman’s intuition is telling you something, should you ignore it? I guess if you fully trust them without any doubt maybe you should. But what percentage of people in relationships or marriages have affairs? A decent figure. And I’m sure many of those people trusted their partners. I think trusting for me is harder because of certain factors earlier in my life. But how is it for others?

Who can you trust without an inch of question? Comment below!

70 thoughts on “Who Do You Trust ?”

  1. 100% Trust? Maybe Not 100% but close enough to allow another into your own private world! Otherwise you’re in for a very lonely life experience. This I know from my own life. Great post! Very thought inducing!

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    2. I don’t trust someone for the sake of not believing them. But if my intuition tells me to be careful, I try to follow that.
      What I won’t do is trust someone who has shown me they untrustworthy.
      Sometimes it hard for me to trust myself.
      I can trust God 100%, my mother when she was living and my best friend.
      I trust my wife, only 93.7% of the time. 😂
      Great post!

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  4. I would like to add an additional comment to my first. I have been taken advantage of time after time in my life. Which caused me to loose my trust in pretty much everyone. But through God’s grace he placed an Angel in my life who has helped me to regain that which other’s had taken from me. If I can find the trust again… Then I think it doesn’t need to be 100% it’s called trust for a reason.. You need to have faith in the one whom you’ve placed your trust! When you do that whatever short fall there is of trust Faith can fill! 😉 May God Bless You and give you peace!

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    1. That’s a really good approach to take in life. Especially if you keep losing trust in people, it’s harder to fully open up to them. But it doesn’t mean it can never happen. Lovely words!😊

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    1. You’re so right. This modern world we live in, the simplest thing can be the hardest. Trust. Thankyouu for reading and commenting!😊

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    1. Yes I completely get where you’re coming from. They always say you should only be able to count your real friends on one hand! Thankyouu for reading and commenting!😊

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      1. In all seriousness it was a interesting post, even though I throw out my crazy comments, but my blog it is called crazy life so got to keep up with a great reputation,
        really, great question you posted on the post

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  7. Hahahahahaha, just talking to a friend about this very thing. Great question!

    First, I want to give you an ehuggggg. I’m sorry you had to experience that with your siblings. My goodness!! I’m always happy when the people I love do well, because guess what…that means our family can and will be in a much better place for future generations. They’ll have the experiences and opportunities that we never received or experienced. That’s a win for all.

    I trust myself and anyone that wants to see me do and be better. To rise through the ashes so to speak. Sadly, thats about 2 or 3 people in my life lol. But those people I CAN fully trust with my life. I will take those people and be happy lol.

    Also, I don’t have to hide anything lol. We can share our dreams without there being an “awkwardness” to it. For this reason alone, that’s why I want everyone to win…so there’s zero hidden insecurities and weirdness when you do share your success. They understand because they, themselves are doing the doggone thang lol.

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    1. Haha we must be psychic! You’re so lucky to have those people in your life. Even though there are only few, many people can’t even find one! Thankyouu for reading and commenting!😊💕

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    1. I think I’m the same. People show their true colours one way or the other! Thankyouu for reading and commenting😊

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  10. An interesting thought process, first and foremost I trust myself … but then I check my motivation and attitude constantly. And without a doubt I trust my best friends but as I’m older they have been friends for decades and we know each other inside out. So usually I could guess their advice before even asking.

    Ultimately I trust my gut response, it’s always right and if I don’t listen to it I can end up in hot water 🙂

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    1. So lucky to have life long friends that you can fully trust!
      That’s sometimes hard to find.
      Your gut knows best so you can always trust yourself if you ever need to!
      Thankyouu for reading and commenting!😊

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  12. One by one leaves our side, to that extent even our own self becomes a complete stranger. But I feel it is at that time you need to place yourself completely in the hands of the Almighty. We are His creation and He will never fail us.

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    1. That’s so interesting! Trust definitely needs to be earned. When you trust too easily, you open yourself up to getting hurt. Thankyouu for reading and commenting!😊

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  15. Someone I place my trust in is Jesus Christ. Sure, people say He didn’t exist or there’s more than one way to heaven. I’m banking on Him sticking closer to me than a brother. I’m also counting on His sacrifice to be enough to atone for the punishment I deserve. Great post. 😃

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    1. I’ve only just discovered so many comments were automatically put in spam, which is so annoying. I haven’t seen them until now!
      Having faith is never a bad thing and I completely get where you’re coming from! Thankyouu so much for reading and commenting!😊

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  22. It’s hard to fully place trust in anyone these days especially when we question our own judgement at times. If you can’t trust yourself, why put someone ahead of you? They say without trust the world can be a lonely place, but there’s a difference between lonely and alone. And trusting the wrong people can get you both places sometimes….so trust. I trust a lot of people but when it comes to trusting in someone, there’s only two people and one of them is me.

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    1. Oh really? Wow 25 years! I bet you know the ins and outs of one another. That’s incredible though and you’re so lucky to have found that person, some people never do! What a lovely insight.
      Thankyouu so much for reading and commenting!😊

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