Serenity, tranquility and peace. No onlookers, judgement and the only place on earth you can shut out the world. If home doesn’t feel as described, maybe it’s time to question – why?
Apartment, house, barn, a specific location or caravan even – the layout has no bearing on what makes you feel at home. I’m sure we’ve all witnessed the somewhat clinical feeling modern homes provide, which are essentially show homes that you live in, if you’re minimalistic and robotic enough. The sense that souls live there are captured by decorative symbols, encased in frames to make the whole picture more coherent. The representation that life exists on paper. Behind closed doors, what remains? Steel frames and window panes are purpose-built, what can’t be ordered is fulfilment internally, no matter how much you plaster over the cracks.
Home should be a place you’re excited to go to, your humble abode that makes you happy in whichever way only you’d know. You should love your home, as a home can’t love you. Brick and mortar don’t relay emotion, they don’t fill the room like people do, they only retain and emphasise what’s already there, an empty space filled with lifeless objects. Embellish them to create a bespoke statement that differs to what already pre-exists. Who is your home for, you or others?
Yes, sometimes self-gratification is an aspect, but if you were the last person on earth, I can tell you that people would revert back to basics, doing and living in ways that make them happy. There’s no bravado, no point to prove, no bedazzling with the latest gadget only AI can provide.
Many times we make jokes that when we’re home alone and have no one to host that we lazily whip something up to eat as there’s no point in going through culinary effort just for yourself. But why is that? There’s no audience for you to take the stage to. No compliments, no recognition and simply no one to please either for validation or a range of emotions. If it tastes good to you, why wouldn’t you make it without additional attendees or visitors? No desire? No occasion?
What happened to pleasing yourself? What happened to making yourself happy? What happened to your wants and homely feeling for yourself and not as a venue to entertain or comfort others?
Moments count, transient perceptions fade.
What do you think? What makes your house a home? What makes your home special? Are you sentimental? Comment below!
Beauty File 
I love being home, home is my happy place! Living by yourself is very peaceful, something I’ve done for a long time now. Home is your own domain where you call the shots and make the rules. 😎☺️
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There’s nothing like having full control of the tv guide is there? Pyjamas on all day without judgement, now that’s heaven! Rules? For others maybe! Rules go out the window when you’re alone in your happy place hehe!😃🤍
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Exactly! Have a great day, Antonia. 😊
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Thankyouu, John! Have a lovely day!😃
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The room I moved into last October is the first place I’ve truly felt at home in years.
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Visitors to our home have often said it is a home because of the presence of my sweety – in the way she is and how she has put her essence into it. I think we both contribute to its overall hominess, but also agree with those assessments. She makes our house a home, even when she’s away. It feels welcoming and safe.
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