It might seem obvious, but who do you really trust, entirely? Yourself? Family? Friends? Partner?
I personally don’t think I have an answer to this. It’s a strange question to ask yourself, as the first thing that comes to mind is yourself. Of course I trust myself the most out of anyone. Why wouldn’t I? You have to be able to fully trust yourself, right? But when you dive deeper, you can have a biased view as to what decisions you’re making. That saying ‘do you follow your head or your heart’ is very true in the sense they’re both yours, but most of the time, they give you two completely different answers. But if you don’t trust yourself entirely, who do you trust? Whose guidance do you follow without question?
Family is a very strange thing. Depending on the dynamics, and the desired outcome they want for you. My experience of some family members, is that they might not want you to fulfil your full potential, to make their situation feel better or they don’t want you surpassing their accomplishments. Sometimes, especially older family members can want to live their life again through you, and from time to time that means completely forgetting what’s best for you, and just what’s best for their ideal life, for you. Their life might’ve been limited so they see a profession lower or higher than your expectations, and want to drive you into doing that. And that might hold you back.
There’s usually a fair amount of jealousy, especially in siblings. And sometimes it can get so toxic, that they’ll just say the complete opposite from what’s actually right for you just to make you stay in your lane and so you know your ‘boundaries’. It gets like a competition when really they should just be happy for you. I remember when I was invited by a modelling agency to come to their offices, and my sibling said ‘that means nothing. They would’ve invited me too’. It sounds like I’m joking, it should’ve been a joke! But trust me, they were being deadly serious. Why is there even a comparison? So petty. Sometimes it can feel like you’re suffocating. The feeling you’re the same as everyone else and no different.
Friends? I think it depends on the friend, but for me I wouldn’t put my head on a block. I don’t think they have that many loyalties to you. Sometimes they truly do want the best for you, but some don’t. How are you meant to figure out one from the other? If you fully trust a person you don’t really question them. And that can end you in hot water. Or unhappy in life. I mean if you can’t fully trust your own flesh and blood, how are you supposed to have that faith in a friend? They say ‘blood’s thicker than water’ for a reason don’t they?
Partner? I mean you should be able to trust them. Completely. But there’s a fine line between 100% trust and naivety. If a woman’s intuition is telling you something, should you ignore it? I guess if you fully trust them without any doubt maybe you should. But what percentage of people in relationships or marriages have affairs? A decent figure. And I’m sure many of those people trusted their partners. I think trusting for me is harder because of certain factors earlier in my life. But how is it for others?
Who can you trust without an inch of question? Comment below!