Butterflies, eye-contact, shared interests can clone the feeling, signalling that you’ve found your soulmate. But how do you decipher the one from the maybes? You know when you know, do you follow your head or your heart?
In today’s society, you’re lucky to meet someone you just about connect with. I never used to believe in ‘the one’. My perception was that it’s just a term or ideal that many have adopted, possibly illogically. There are billions of people out there around the world, how could each of us just have one person out there for us? If my unknown soulmate were to pass away before we crossed paths, or live halfway around the world what happens then? How do your worlds collide?
Nada. Maybe it’s the cynicism in me, but I don’t buy it. …Up until recently.
Words, and the unspoken felt like something new. An unknown feeling, that somehow feels like home. I slap myself out of it, internally questioning that I must just be getting soppy in my old age. It can’t be, I don’t believe it – I can’t believe it. Maybe it’s just a lesson to soften me slightly, surely?
Perfection, even though I’d love for it to exist, doesn’t. It’s usually a game of give and take. As long as the pros outweigh the cons, you can attempt to meander the gaps by evaluating and establishing what’s right in front of you. Puzzling, but not impossible, like a rubiks cube. If you ignore the potential, the ‘what if’ will always cross your mind every so often.
You can’t expect to be swept off your feet. It doesn’t exist, life isn’t a fairytale, plus I wouldn’t wish to pay the excess for your physio sessions after breaking your back. Disney princesses weren’t in a cost of living recession, we have to be frugal out here.
But somehow, that’s exactly what happened. How often are you swept off your feet, quite literally? I wish I was joking, but I can confirm my feet were off the ground. Reason being an imaginary puddle which I couldn’t see… Happiness, with a dash of shock/outrage, as I was no longer in control. After being carried over the tiniest puddle ever, I returned back onto the good old British, wet concrete in the pouring rain, this person then had my undivided attention. All of my reservations, doubts and questions, were somehow a distant memory.
The handbook to generic first dates and the somewhat impartial feeling you leave with was dashed out of the window. I guess after a while it becomes repetitive, almost like running an errand you dread doing, nonchalant to what will be. Like picking up a bottle of milk from the corner shop. Comme ci, comme ça. When someone or something doesn’t conform to what you expected, envisioned, or experienced but surpassing that – in that moment, it may just take your breath away… So get your inhaler ready. Sorry, you must be used to my terrible jokes by now.
I’ve learnt, life works in mysterious ways. Protect your heart, soul and beliefs. But, be open to what may arise, as you never know what life has in store for you. Trust in the process and your intuition, everything else will fall into place. Always stay observant and never lower your standards – the right person will accompany your journey in life, bringing out the best traits in one another. Isn’t this what they all say at the start then 20 years later, minute details and habits like how they slurp their tea makes your blood boil – sorry cynic Antonia will never leave me!
What do you think? How did you feel when you met your partner? How could you tell? Do you believe in soulmates or ‘the one’? Are you a realist that doesn’t believe in the ideology? Do you even believe in monogamy? Comment below!
Beauty File 
I don’t know that there’s just one; as you say, the chances of encountering that person are so ridiculously small. But I do think there is a small number of people whom we have the chance to connect with, truly and deeply because of the traits and interests we share. When your insides flutter and you can’t eat or sleep when you’re not around them, it’s a sure sign something is happening inside you. Congratulations on getting there!
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I completely agree, it’s crazy how you can somehow bond with very few/maybe just one, by simply gazing into each others eyes, which can say much more opposed to someone you might’ve known for months or years.
We usually concentrate on finding out about someone through what we ask and if the answers align with what we believe to be right. Which is probably us controlling the narrative slightly, lessening the organic nature of when you just know, by letting your senses and intuition fill the silence. Not manipulating the so-called ‘spark’.
Without having the date checklist nearby!
I’ve realised that whilst questions are equally as important, there’s something that holds your attention in entire silence.
That’s when you know there’s something more there you can’t put your finger on.
Aw haha there might be something in ‘the wrong one’ too!😂
Thankyouu so much Steve, for reading and sharing your insight!😃🤍
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You’re welcome, Antonia. Ah exactly, regarding silence… our society frowns upon it and we rush to fill it with meaningless talk instead of senses and intuition. Brilliant.
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Yes! I believe there is the “ONE” Sometimes your world’s collide before they’re meant to take off. What I mean is… things weren’t ready for you both to be together.. It happened to me! But, she wasn’t willing ready or able to do what was needed to complete my puzzle. It’s been been difficult to accept the waiting, it felt as though my life was passing by as I waited knowing she IS THE love of my life! I have thus decided to carry on with my life and trust that what is meant to be WILL BE! But there is so much more I want to do before my days are finished. I can carry her love with me as I do those things. So YES there is the ONE, don’t miss out on the chance when life and fate come together and present you with the Brass Ring to grab and make your life complete. I loved this post! One of your best!!;-)
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The timing can be wrong, for sure. Life has a habit of throwing a curveball when you least expect it!
I’m so sorry to hear that, the complexities of life can temporarily stall uniting both parties. All you can do is carry on living your life and be open to what may come your way. Whether that’s ‘the one’ you’ve met, another ‘one’, or someone who aligns with your outlook on life that you can grow with. It might not be the initial spark or butterflies you felt with ‘the one’, but in time sparks, butterflies and more can evolve over time.
There’s potentially a reason why your lives can’t unite currently, we all have a destiny which many times can be controlled by us. But in the few moments where situations are out of our hands and you’ve made your feelings clear, all you can look at is the bigger picture. Whether that includes ‘the one’ in the future or not, trust the process. When one door closes, another opens. Being emotionally available for what may happen in the future, is the most important!
Aw I’m so glad that you’ve experienced that connection, as some aren’t so lucky!
I can tell your heart is open night and day ready to sweep her off her feet🥹.
When you know, you know.
So glad you’ve enjoyed this post! One of my best?🥹 my heart isn’t entirely made of stone haha! This post was more mushy than I’m used to, it felt somewhat foreign to me hehe🙈.
Thankyouu so much for reading and sharing that ‘the one’ really does exist as you’ve encountered first hand!🥹🤍
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Not to belabor the point… Sometimes all it takes to spark or even rekindle a spark is an open acknowledgement that you’ve met that one! After all… wouldn’t you want the world to know you’ve found them??🤔
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Yes, sometimes you’re unsure if they know the effect or impression they’ve made on you. They may even feel the exact same way but afraid to make the first move. The only way of making your feelings clear and known is being open and honest, so you at the very least have a clear conscious and know that you’ve done all you can do for the time being. It’s hard to look forward without fully addressing that chapter!
If only life could give us a sign! All you can do is follow your heart🤍
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Sometime life bring amazing people into your life that you can’t let go of them, at the same time Life bring so many people that you never understand. but when that one amazing person comes into your life for sure. the changes around you will glo an you will fine out how beautiful Life it’s
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You’re so right! You just know when you’re world tuns upside down in the best way possible and you can’t recall life before / without them. Life throws many people that you can never understand haha! That’s the beautiful thing about life, it’s a journey you didn’t think you were on, but it’s brought you to where you are today and the people around you in this present moment and future. It makes you realise how lucky and fortunate we are and how important it is to never become complacent, as life could change in a flash. Enjoy every moment🤗🤍.
Thankyouu so much for reading and sharing such a deep and wonderful insight, you truly brought a big smile to my face😃🤗🤍
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Nice post 😌
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Aw thankyouu!! So glad you’ve enjoyed this post!🤗🤍
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My pleasure 🥰
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“I’ve learnt, life works in mysterious ways. Protect your heart, soul and beliefs. But, be open to what may arise, as you never know what life has in store for you.” Some wise advice Antonia! 😎
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Aww thankyouu so much Brian! So glad you enjoyed reading this post 😃🤍
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I have learned a whole lot from all of my relationships with women. At least, I was the primary breadwinner. I want to inform you that I am maintaining friendships with all of my ex-girlfriends. I have learned to move on from the mistakes that I had made in all of my relationships with women. My best friend is a female, and I adore her very much!! She literally completes me!! This means that she understand me for the person that I am.
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