Many of us have wanted to experience a sleepover at some point. If it’s a girly night or a boy night, the thought of being somewhere with your friends, out of school and not having too many rules seems so enticing! But do you approve of sleepovers or not?
Sleepovers are portrayed quite a lot especially in films and tv shows. It always seems like a great fun time. You can stay up with your friends and talk about anything and everything without having a time limit on when you’re going home. Now, my mother was never keen on sleepovers and never encouraged them. One thing for sure, is that she said she won’t be responsible for anyone else’s children, so sleepovers were never gonna be held at her house. Full stop.
I was about 10/11 years old at the time and I wasn’t too keen on sleepovers either. Just never had a desire for them. I was quite shy at school, unless I was around my two best friends. Then I’d really open up to them, like I was a different person. Once you get to know me and my barriers come down, I’m a chatterbox! So when one of my best friends invited me for a sleepover at her house along with our other best friend and one or two others I was a bit taken back. The thought of it was appealing in a way but also this would’ve been my first ever sleepover, so I was a bit confused. I already knew my mother’s not for it but I went ahead with it anyway. I didn’t wanna be the odd one out of the group, you know?
Mum dropped me off everything was fine and fun then, when daylight turned into dusk, we all showered and changed into our pyjamas. Now that’s when it went downhill. Everyone privately changed into there’s pyjamas in the same room as each other. But I tried to cover myself up whilst doing it. Then when I finally changed into mine along with everyone else, they started laughing at me. Each and everyone of them. I was surprised and embarrassed, by the friends who weren’t my closest, but I was even more horrified that my best friends were pointing fingers at me and laughing. I couldn’t understand, So I kind of stuttered, “what’s wrong? why are you laughing at me?”. And they say “it’s because you’re wearing underwear under your pyjamas. That’s not normal!” I quickly gathered my thoughts and shyly replied “yes it is”. They reply laughing “No it isn’t! We all just wear our pyjamas that’s the normal thing to do”.
I remember wanting to go home there and then, since my house was just a few streets away. I just wanted my mother to collect me and be as far away from here as possible. I was horrified. It left a mental scar on me. Seeing my own best friends bullying me, along with one or two others, laughing, pointing fingers at me and picking on me. At a sleepover. Making me feel like the odd one out. They made it pretty clear. I felt powerless, I was in her home. Her parents would defend her and they just weren’t on option for me to open up to. I remember sleeping there, curled up still trying to absorb what just happened. I cried myself to sleep silently when the lights were out. And since then I never had a sleepover after that experience. I had no desire to.
But it’s made me think. Hopefully, if I have children, would I allow them to sleepover by their friends? And unfortunately, the answer would be no. Since my experience, I just would never want them going through that. I wouldn’t be putting my bad experiences on them, but so much can happen when you leave your child in someones hands. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. As soon as you leave them alone in another persons hands they become fully their responsibility. Once your child walks through their door entrance, you have completely no power or control. I’ve read and educated myself on all the good and bad things that happen in this world, and some of the bad are so horrific and gruesome, it cannot be verbally repeated. If unimaginable, indescribable and sickening things, sometimes happen in their own families, how can you ever entirely trust someone with your child? You’d give your life for your child, but would they?
What do you think? Do you approve of sleepovers? Comment your thoughts below!