One thing we all have at our disposal is time. Time to reflect, plan ahead, time to understand our emotions and most of all time to understand ourselves. The more you cling onto hope of gratification or acknowledgement differentiating between right or wrong, your outlook is the only soul suffering whilst everyone else’s carries on. Healthy?
Life is short. Fulfilling hopes, dreams and completing personal chapters is how you can maximise today, tomorrow and beyond. Clinging onto baggage, trauma, heartache, versions of events, authenticity can not only be a heavy burden, but simply torturous, suppressing and limiting what may be to what has been. Changing the present to fit a past, broken, defunct mould will renew the sequence of events if you’re unable to separate the two.
Sometimes I question the underlying intent behind the true desire of what presenting the past with mounting, supporting evidence to substantiate your reality. Is it to clarify the past, then move on positively and honestly; or to change the past in turn making it more palatable to possibly resume today? If you’re less misunderstood, your pride is no longer a point of discussion up for dispute, resulting in peace of mind to almost reanalyse and reengage the past with a fresh set of eyes. The reset button to what may have been is no longer so distant.
The past shapes who we are today. To change that by reflecting, one of two could happen. One, you could move ever closer to self serenity, understanding and mental stability or two, you could return back to square one to play out a previous scene you couldn’t switch off due to the inability to move on.
The sheer strain and weight of carrying the additional load not only on your shoulders but mentally can damage you by holding out for that one day when everything could change as you figuratively take to the stand. Yes, it could happen but by chance, what if it doesn’t? What does your life look like then?
Making sense of the past can make you stronger, wiser and more whole. But knowing the boundary line as to how much is of significance to dig up, is crucial to either progress or regress. The decision is yours. Artefacts don’t speak the future into existence, you do.
What do you think? How do you handle excess baggage? What’s your take on continuously reverting to the past to address the present? If you could reset your brain, would you? Comment below!
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Wonderful post that delivers a valuable reminder that we can’t stuck in the past. We must simply accept it, learn from it, and move on as there is nothing we can do to change it. Absolutely true. Thank you!
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Precisely! Aw thankyouu so glad you enjoyed reading this post and sharing your insight, Angela! Hope you’re having a lovely day🤗🤍
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I have a rule about the past. I visit occasionally from time to time, but I sure as hell am not going to live there. People often get agitated with me for rarely talking about, or quickly exiting, conversations about the past. Get the valuable takeaways and move on, I say.
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Yes, once you open Pandora’s box, it can be very difficult to shut unless you receive your desired outcome, resulting in more intense internal feelings. Nothing wrong with visiting the past, but to stagnantly live out what has already been can be ever so traumatic and halt your present life.
Haha I do the same with the quick exit or diversion, saves time and energy rather than reliving what I cannot change.
There are only certain exceptional cases where opening a can of worms can be for the greater good, if legalities are at play for example or legal wrongs can be put right.
Thankyouu so much for sharing your wisdom, Kevin!😃
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Indeed there are exceptions to every rule as you accurately stated, Antonia. If it’s a case of justice being served, then yes, absolutely.
But as a general rule, I find the wisdom of the old song rings true: “I ain’t got time to reminisce on novelties.” 😄
Ruminating on the past is a very slippery slope and rarely ends well.
Thank you for your thoughtful response. 😊
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Time has healed many old wounds for me, Antonia. Yet, the persistence of memory can cause you to sometimes feel the anguish of things past.
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I’m so glad to hear! Time can most definitely give you a deeper understanding of past events and regulating emotions. Sometimes time can snowball slow-burning intense feelings, resulting in additional pain/trauma/anger presenting itself as baggage. Addressing it sooner rather than later can be beneficial instead of sitting on accumulating potential revenge. Clean slate’s can sometimes be a way forward to a happier life.
Thankyouu so much for your insight, John!😃🤍
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You are welcome, Antonia. You are very wise for one so young! ❤️
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Time wounds all heels
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Most definitely sometimes!😊
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Hey, I just wanted to say that you have good taste in music and eclectic interests in useful and intriguing things. (Only judging by things on my blog that you’ve liked) I have many ideas about this post of yours, one insight that I have been able to put to use in my own life is, not holding grudges, if possible. Because I see holding a grudge as about as smart as drinking cyanide, thinking it’ll kill the one who is the objective of the grudge. Yeah, not healthy. Great advice. ✌️
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I think it isn’t one size fits all but how ever one needs to deal with the past it should end with forgiving, letting go, and acceptance.
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My take is that you can’t avoid the past, it’s always embedded in your mind, whether you are conscious of it or not! So the thing here is your relationship with the past! That’s how it’s gonna affect you either positively or negatively. We should have time to resolve our past experiences. By the way time is really a great healer! Thanks for sharing, new subscriber here👋
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You’re so right. Only we can resolve our past experiences to the best of our ability with time. That journey is one you must take alone.
Aww thankyouu so much for sharing your insight and support! Happy Easter! 🤗🐣🤍
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Thanks, Happy Easter too..🙂
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