Battle of the sexes. Why is a women’s role, choice or purpose still being questioned by men?
Women. Men. Equality, to a point. But biologically, mentally and physically, we’ll never be the same. So why abuse the apparent disparity?
I’ve noticed a growing number of men for example, express an intense grievance which they at times honey glaze to make their true beliefs almost go unnoticed. Like weeds gradually growing from your pristine patio. Where did this come from?
I’ll list a few examples:
- ‘The only difference between men and women is a womb.’
- ‘What about men? Without men, you couldn’t have children.’
- ‘Women use their body to progress in the workplace, how’s that fair? The workplace will never be equal. Men have had to work much harder to get to their position without showing their assets.’
- ‘Women know what they’re doing if they’re wearing a blouse, pencil skirt and heels for example.’
- ‘Women don’t know how easy they have it, what happened to equality?’
- ‘”Happy wife, happy life”. Why’s it only about making the woman happy? Why are women so important? What about men’s happiness? It’s as important to make a husband happy.’
- ‘If women don’t wish to return to work in a timely fashion after having a baby, they’re work shy and it’s not fair. Being a housewife isn’t a job, if it is, I’ll tell the woman what being a housewife is, and if my expectations and demands aren’t met including times to have “duties” done by, it’s laziness.’
- ‘Women are too career-focussed nowadays, children shouldn’t be in nursery; priorities are all wrong.’
- ‘A baby doesn’t need breast milk, formula is just as good’ – sidenote: (it can be, but if a woman can breastfeed without any health issues or pain why shouldn’t they have that right?)
And breathe. Firstly, are you okay? Secondly, Where does the prejudged, comparative and resentment nature come from? And lastly, what have women ever done to you? Where has misogyny come from since women brought us into the world. Who and what has begrudged you in life to have such a pessimistic, misogynistic view of women?
Why does it have such a bearing on your life what a woman chooses to do? Why generalise women? What do you actually appreciate about women, instead of a rather unfavourable outlook?
It’s sad that both genders in these predicaments can have trouble uplifting, supporting and listening to one another. Why is the gap widening more than ever when simple understanding and education will address the contentious assumptions of the need or purpose of women in society.
To depict women mainly on the ignorantly assumed basis of what they can add to a man’s world, whether that’s sexually, financially or to procreate – doesn’t even deserve a reaction. One word comes to mind, pity.
In the day and age of the likes of Andrew Tate and many others, you can choose to be a follower and not have a mind of your own; or better yourself, educate not only yourself but have further understanding on where these strong polarising views have stemmed from.
Positivity resonates onto others, whereas negativity only engulfs and impedes your life – gradually trickling down to those around you.
Practicing self confidence can also healthily balance your interpretations and outlook.
After all, if you don’t love yourself, who can you love?
What do you think? Have you experienced subtle or clear jibes from the opposing gender? Is this mindset perspective fair and reasonable for more and more guys to practice? Comment below your thoughts!
Beauty File 
Your article blew me away! I’d been wondering these things for a while now, but you have expressed it so well here.
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Aw thankyouu so much, Kymber!🤗🤍 I don’t think it’s just us that wonders these things hehe, all too common nowadays!
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It’s horrible stuff. Lots of men are as baffled by such men as women are. I don’t understand them either.
I can only suggest many (younger in particular, but many older too) men are having a tough time out there – work, a sense of purpose, etc. Encouraged by slugs like that Tate, some younger men especially seem to think women as equals is somehow a problem and if women somehow don’t fall at their feet, that’s women adding to their troubles. It is simply scapegoating.
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Most definitely. You can’t etch a sketch somebody, you take people as they come. That should be championed, not immorally and wrongly put down or being made to feel inadequate to make an individual feel more empowered or superior.
You embrace once differences, not capitalise on it for your own pursuit. It’s all too common nowadays isn’t it.
I completely agree with how you mentioned scapegoating also, it’s crazy!
Thankyouu so much for reading and sharing such enlightening insight!😃🤍
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“It’s sad that both genders in these predicaments can have trouble uplifting, supporting and listening to one another.”
While I am not looking to gloss over the main topic of your post, I think the above sentence speaks volumes as well. People in general these days seem to have trouble supporting and encouraging one another, regardless of gender/lifestyle. Everyone is out to undercut the other, it sometimes feels.
As for the main topic of your post, perhaps because I was raised mostly by my mother and grandmother, I have a different perspective of women’s “roles” in this world. I grew up watching them both work very, very hard to get where they were. No one handed them jack. I believe this is where I got my work ethic from, as my father was busy divorcing and remarrying every time he met a woman whose family had more money. Gee…Sounds like a stereotypical gold digger, doesn’t it? Oh, the irony. 😄
I know plenty of successful women, and I can say that without exception, they were all damned smart and worked very hard for their success. I can also say that as their friend, I am very proud of them and proud to know them.
There are good and bad people in both genders, so saying that only women use their “advantages” to get ahead is a completely inaccurate statement.
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Your mother and grandmother sound like very strong women, which is phenomenal! Sorry to hear about your father’s marital status being touch and go, that must’ve been difficult.
For sure, I think it all whittles down to what is defined as success and choice to each individual.
What one may define as success, another may not. Likewise with choice. If one does not have choice, suffocation can feel like failure, when that may not be the case. People can also at times mistake success in regards to happiness, when that’s also a personal journey that people sometimes keep locked away more securely than materialistic and more superficial signs due to it having more personal significant meaning where judgements may not be far behind.
100%, there are good and bad in all walks of life with both women and men. Conversing openly and honestly is key!
Thankyouu so much for reading and sharing your insightful experiences, Kevin!😃🤍
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Hi, Antonia. Yes, they were both very very strong people. To them, obstacles were merely one more thing to be dealt with. Nothing more.
As for my father, no need to feel sorry there. I am grateful for the most valuable lesson he taught me: What kind of man NOT to be. I have not seen him in over 20 years, and my life is none the lesser for that.
And yes, a lot of what means success is indeed individual. What you and I each value could very well be two separate things completely.
Oftentimes when we do not have a choice and feel suffocated, there are others in our ear telling us that we are the problem, which is likely where the feeling of failure comes in.
Indeed, there are good and bad specimens in all areas of life,a and it is not gender exclusive. It’s somewhat ironic to me that despite the proliferation of so many tools to enable communication, human beings as a whole have gotten worse at it.
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Men are very confused in comparing the women they desire sexually to the over idealized angelical perceptions they hold of their mothers. If the ideals they hold deep inside their hearts are ever proven false, then there is no limit to their anger. And the women they desire become targets of their forever grief. I married one, raised four, and I don’t think there’s any way to fix it. It’s better to accept them as they are (stay away from the angry disillusioned about mom guys) and love them through it.
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It is very disturbing to see the growth of misogyny in Canada and the USA where society is falling backward with threats or outright reversal of rights women fought hard for. And to what gain to these old rich white dudes who make the laws (then break others).
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Well spoken. Unfortunately, most of us are following our cultural conditioning. It seems to be too difficult for most to get beyond that…; -)
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