The dilemma this generation is going through. But is it rational?
The pandemic has been the cause for many relationships falling apart. Whether that’s because it’s highlighted pre-existing issues, or whether you looked at your other half one day and thought, “Lord almighty, what was I thinking?!”. Throw co-habiting into the mix, can spell disaster!
Living together is a mission. You think it’s heavenly in the honeymoon stages, then a few months in – hell doesn’t look so bad after all! I’ve never permanently lived with someone, but I imagine it’s not easy. The bad habits – NEED I SAY MORE?! And I wouldn’t want to begin that stage prematurely. But guess what, that’s what 2020 and 2021 has been all about!
Couples all over the world have been moving into together, sometimes straight after the first date! It’s a dating phenomenon that has skipped months or years of traditional dating, purely for the reason being – they don’t want to be apart (or alone). The relationship milestone has turned into a COVID necessity, but what’s the reality of this ‘arrangement’ working out?
Because you’ve skipped the formal “moving in stage”, does that mean as soon as lockdown ends, you go back into your separate lives? Do you move out and just start dating each-other again? Or would you be officially moved in, even after the pandemic ends?
We all know marriage is last on everyone’s radar nowadays. We’re here for a good time, not a long time mentality. But then what? You pack your bags then up and leave? What happens if lockdown happens again, would you move into someone else’s place? You’ll be living out of a bag! Never mind having to redirect your mail all over the country!
I know the idea of isolating apart may seem daunting, but surely it must be better than being at sometimes beck and call? Especially during these irregular times, you’d have to think, “Would he/she have asked me to move in, in normal circumstances? And where do we both see this going?” As no offence, it’s usually men who initiate these spontaneous ideas, and they’re very fickle creatures. Sorry guys. Plus they’re probably liking and instagram stalking other girls as we speak. Not all men are like this… But 99.9% of today’s generation are! And the 0.01% that aren’t, in all likelihood, are doing it on the down low. Apologies again lads x (I’m really not sorry).
If he/she really loved you, and couldn’t imagine life without you, even if it’s for a few months, they’d ask you to marry them. Or at the VERY least make a life long commitment. Is that honestly too much to ask for?
I mean, I know fairytales aren’t realistic. But neither is quarantining together. Did Prince Charming ask Cinderella to Netflix and chill, or to quarantine together? NO! Did he leave the glass slipper in his bachelor pad, and snapchat Cinderella to come and get it, whilst he’s looking at other girls? NO! So why should we?
Our self value and what’s expected of someone shouldn’t change because of a pandemic. If anything, it should make people realise what they really want. If that’s making a serious commitment, or breaking up. After all, I’d say now is one of the best times ever to make a clean break, as if you’re living in separate households, and your partner hasn’t been treating you right, you’re forced to not ignore your feelings, as you can’t be persuaded by their presence or manipulation.
Use this time to reflect on you, and what you really want. As in normal times, we seem to do what’s easiest or not too much hassle, and not what’s best for YOU.
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