Job, marriage, mortgage, kids; are these the expectations that narrate our reality? What makes you happy?
We’re constantly on a hamster wheel day in, day out. Sure, our life sequence is quite repetitive and may not be uplifting, but we’ve become so engrossed into what we should do and fulfil, the mass and materialistic consumption, that we’ve starved ourselves of our own senses, wants, needs, urges and most of all, happiness. But how can we recognise our feelings and what we long for if its atypical from what we’ve been taught, shown or told?
Categorising our true wants, whether it fits a societal outlook can feel somewhat impossible. You’re afraid of being ostracised, judged or your values being questioned, which is why the easiest socially acceptable way, is to follow the tried and tested blueprint and object independent thought or living. If your inner circle who know you more than anyone may judge you, imagine the general public. Stigma, can never be a positive descriptor. Internal contemplation, left to simmer on the back burner. You’re prolonging decision day, why do you think so many change their behaviour suddenly when they hit 40? Fear of missing out. Midlife crisis is a valid terminology. If not then, when?
Who’s to blame for the indecisive nature of ones actions? Why do we feel like it’s more acceptable to casually hook up in our early 20’s/prior, get hitched around 30 or so, drop a couple of kids then question everything throughout your 40’s and beyond? Society, that’s why. If we blocked out the propaganda, noise and what you thought you knew, you’d be left with your actions and assembling life how you see fit. Midlife crisis would be terminated as there’d be no crisis to be had, you’d have authority to make these choices everyday. It’d be the norm for you, but would that make you happy?
As humans, we love the feeling of power, choice. But we also like contentment, feeling wanted and structure. Where does that leave us? Being indecisive? To a certain degree. We fear the unknown, society has made us reliant on their cue cards to differentiate how we automatically respond in situations and what we expect. We have boxes to tick up until the day we die, we hate feeling like a formality, equally that’s all we know. How would you feel if you had to create your own unique checklist in life without any outside influence or resistance? Uneasy?
Exactly.
Some may say happiness is overrated, status is overrated, education is overrated, money is overrated, kids are overrated, love is overrated. But the question should be, what are you referring this to? And what has led you to this judgement? After all, your life experiences create the person you are today. Memories of the past, are pivotal in your decisions for the future. The reference point will rationalise, elaborate and somewhat validate the opinion.
Memories of the past, are pivotal in your decisions for the future. After all, what you resist, persists.
What do you think? Is happiness easy to recognise? What age did you learn what made you happy? Is societal expectations an inclusive guide for all? Can it be your downfall? Comment below your thoughts!
Beauty File 
Interesting post
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Aw thankyouu so much!🤗🤍
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Welcome antonia
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You know something, I can relate to what you have written because I am reading the Bible each day. I am relying on God to solve all of my problems. I’m also consulting with
members of my Clergy team and therapist because I am powerless over people places and things. Thank you for writing your blog 😊
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Incredible! God will always make you happy😊 he’ll go to any length to make sure you fulfil your destiny whatever that may be!
Aww you’re so welcome, thankyouu for reading and commenting on my blog🤗🤍
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I found happiness in my family. I know it’s not for everyone, and that’s fine. But my mother was a noted businesswoman who had little time for her kids and husband. She worked so hard to be the ever-fashionable ‘boss-lady’ and in the end, she was divorced from my dad by the time I was 5 and I grew up in a broken home where my mum was never around because she was always working. She died from complications of alcoholism, penniless and mostly alone at 62.
Me? I have a pretty good career that keeps a roof over our head but I’m happiest at home with my husband and my family. I’m not at all ashamed of that ☺️
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I’m so sorry to hear about your mother 😔🙏, broken family’s can be hard to navigate.
You’ve managed to build and create along with your husband, such a resilient family which is such an amazing, enriching, selfless source of happiness. It’s one of the very few things and concepts we have in life where we can grow, capture and savour the past, present and future. As they’re exactly that wrapped up in one! Especially if you’re lucky enough to have a close knit family, that’s an extremely special unit to hold onto!
Aww it makes me so happy that your source of happiness is family, as it costs nothing in such a materialistic, fast paced world nowadays! And shows values.
Thankyouu so much for reading and sharing your extraordinary insight! 🤗🤍
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I’ve always thought of Henry VIII leaving his wife of many years Katherine of Aragon and then marrying the young Anne Bolelyn (later having her beheaded) and making himself head of the Church of England when he didn’t get his own way was a prime example of a mid-life crisis taken to an extreme and what happens when the person experiencing that mid-life crisis is the absolute ruler of a country.
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That’s a very valid point and comparison! Many of the rulers of countries are in their 40’s or older, so this automatically means our fate could be like Anne Bolelyn’s?! Well gosh I hope not, this has taken a very unexpected turn😂😂! We’re doomed.
I can always count on you for putting everything into perspective hehe!👀😃
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😂😂
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Great 😊
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This was such a thoughtful and provoking piece! Beautifully written. Have given me much to think about. 🥰
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Aww thankyouu so much Cassandra! So glad to hear you enjoyed this post!🤗🤍
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I love how you make readers THINK. Delicious. My brain is still doing warm fuzzies. 🤗
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Aww you’ve made my day! Thankyouu ever so much, you’re incredibly kind!🥹❤️ this smile won’t be leaving my face all day😃😁🥹❤️
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Beloved, your words CHANGE LIVES. Keep sharing. We NEED them. Your words have soothed this tired soul. They make my sad not so sad. Never, never, never let anything keep your words from hitting the page…
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