Why Do You Project Your Insecurities Onto Others?

Confidence can be a driving force in conversing. Insecurities can also, but the outcome is drastically different. One question, why? I’m not the enemy, but you programme me to appear like it.

I’ve realised people can either lift you or drag you down. Passive aggressiveness aimed at you is usually a result of their own unhappiness, but if you’re not cautious you’ll start questioning yourself.

It may be superficial aspects, character traits or attempting to dim your light to allow them to shine more. When in reality their flickering bulb is what needs attending to.

By improving your soul internally you’ll put out good and positivity into the world. Questioning one’s abilities, looks or identity does not make you more superior, in fact it highlights that your own lack of fulfilment and contentment; it’ll be more beneficial seeking help and working on yourself.

The under the radar, sly, disrespectful commentary / digs can be quite common practice, whether that’s in the workplace; loved ones like family or friends; people in a position of authority and wrongly exercising their power; even a romantic partner. Don’t forget it’s an established mindset which will usually come to the surface in various ways. Depending on methodology and what may be boiling over, inside.

Ways to deal with complex behaviour taking a downward trajectory if removing yourself from the situation isn’t an option: keep them at arms length, don’t allow them in your inner circle or your peaceful serenity. Boundaries are key to insuring they can’t do permanent, life-changing damage.

After all, it’s your life. It’s easy to dilute your values, character, soul or looks to appease others. But once you’ve made that change, it’s very difficult to get back the strength you once had. Celebrate who you are, not who they think you are or want you to be. Now that’s authenticity.

What do you think? Have you experienced insecurities / jealousy being projected onto you or others? Comment below!