Your two worlds collide – romance and love follows. But two things stand in your way: distance and reality. Do you follow your head, heart or visa status?
Pina colada under the sizzling sun; what could be the perfect accompaniment? A fun, lustful holiday romance where time is limited but possibilities are endless. The rush of adrenaline that fills your body reminding you to savour every moment of this new but potentially pre-sealed fate. Or could it ever really be?
Long distance. We all know what it amounts to in the end. I can even set the closing curtains on standby mode for when needed. The once alluring inspirational quotes along the lines of ‘if you love someone enough, you’ll make it work’; ‘nothing could keep us apart’ and lastly ‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’ is romanticised before the flights delayed or you’re in the midst of a pandemic where distance is the prime factor. Is the challenge in making the impossible, possible more tantalising, fulfilling and captivating than the ease of access locally? Probably.
You realise locally, in a shorter period of time that you may be incompatible, want different things or alternatively opt in favour of the single lifestyle. Hope is easier to hold onto than a conclusive realisation. What you don’t know can’t hurt you, right? Dreams are created from afar, whether that’s a Disney movie, fantasy literature etc. Holiday romances easily reflect this optimistic, potentially illustrative pattern of what we can portray and visualise internally as reality dooms at a much later date. Fantasies can be out of sight but not out of mind. How can you answer to a hollow silhouette?
Date nights are non-existent. The emptiness can feed your loneliness just as a three course menu can. Dependant on the relationship, you can feel more invisible dating someone you share a home with rather than finding love oceans away. If you love someone enough, you show it. Distance doesn’t show it for you. We can sometimes get accustomed to appreciating scraps or being fit into a cement-set schedule. If you find someone that makes you a priority and crosses bodies of water for you, acknowledge it for what it is. After all, good things don’t come easy. Don’t lower your pedestal, as your person will meet you there, happily.
Questioning your sanity is normal. Deliberating and identifying pros and cons is a balanced, fair strategy towards making a judgement call based on factors including stability, reality, economy, and possibility.
With that being said, holiday romances can be sustainable but only when both parties mirror the same objective. If one is lagging behind or displaying signs of impartiality, whilst the other is proactive and organising the pathway from A to B, it’ll collapse like a house of cards before you even approach the border.
Live, laugh, love – but don’t let love laugh at you. Trust your gut, be honest with yourself but never say never. Long distance is impractical, but does love ever truly make sense? Life has a way of throwing curve balls, or baby blue waves.
Did you get the dad joke? Oceans? Hard crowd!
What do you think? Have you experienced a holiday romance? Is it sustainable? Unrealistic? Comment below!
Beauty File 
You pointed out very well that this is highly dependent on what each person wants and I think its very complicated. I have read that the number of people that are choosing to live by themselves as I do is increasing.
Our divorce rate in the States has been around 50/51 percent for a long time which leads me to say… Why bother? You will save yourself a ton of money and emotional baggage by remaining a single person indefinitely. I sure have after three divorces, Antonia. Great subject!
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Absolutely. Intent, honesty along with getting to know each other; prioritising how, if and when long distance will no longer be a factor is key to possibly sustain a holiday romance, but the odds are not in your favour.
How sad that one in two marriages will end up in divorce. The statistics are unbelievable and disheartening but I do believe society has also had a large role in the decline of people even contemplating marriage. It’s no longer a declaration and commitment representing your love, more like a doomed decision we shouldn’t even partake in unless we accept that there’s a high chance of it ending in divorce, so what’s the point? Being pessimistic is not negative, but the movement and encouragement behind why marriage is cursed almost, could be deemed as raining on an innocent couples parade.
I’d say marriage isn’t the reason for an unfavourable outcome, it’s the people within it. Marriage is simply an official union that two parties make, marriage cannot determine the outcome as that’s reliant on the people within it.
A couple is almost like a house, if the house crumbles and falls down, it’s not the mortgage lender’s fault, the responsibility lies with the rightful owners and commonly habitants of the home – the couple themselves. It takes maintenance and upkeep for a house to stay upright and in a good condition. The same as a marriage. You wouldn’t blame a plant for dying if it’s not watered.
Now I do agree that marriage isn’t suited for everyone, 100% fair.
With that being said, marriage gets a lot of flack nowadays without acknowledging and addressing the true causes behind why that or those particular union or unions didn’t work out.
I really enjoyed responding to your comment as it’s rather thought-provoking whilst sharing different outlooks, perspectives and experiences! Thankyou ever so much for sharing your insight as always, John!
And so glad you enjoyed this post!😊🤍
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You are welcome, Antonia, you make some great points! I wish I hadn’t made the choice to marry three times, Once should have taught me a lesson.
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No, I’ve never experienced a holiday romance.
And speaking of romance I watched what I considered the best film adaptation of the Cinderella story that I have ever seen this past late Monday night and early Tuesday morning.
I wrote a movie review of it a couple days ago explaining why it was the best film adaptation of the Cinderella story that I have ever seen if you care to take a look.
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Ooh which Cinderella story was this? The 2004 movie with Hilary Duff? I must take a look at your review to know more about what you thought of it!
If it is the 2004 film I’m referring to, that is a great movie I’ve seen quite a few times!
Thankyouu for the recommendation, I love movie reviews!😊🤍
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It was a 2012 Italian made movie version of Cinderella – made in English.
Originally done as a TV series.
The movie itself is 3 hours and 29 minutes long (because it was done as a TV series).
The name of the YouTube channel where you can watch it is Movie Central.
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This definitely does not ring a bell, my mistake for assuming! Originally a tv series? How peculiar, this is all new to me!
Movie central on YouTube; thankyou for the recommendation! I need to do my homework hehe😂📺🤍
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You’re very welcome 😊🤍
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I think every relationship should be appreciated for what it *is*, rather than what we *want* it to be. That goes just as hard for marriages, one night stands, flings, casual dating, serious dating, holiday romances, whatever.
My relationships failed because my wants and needs were not aligned – either with themselves, or with my partner’s (either of us *needed* a one night fling, but *wanted* a marriage, or vice versa…That’s a recipe for failure RIGHT there!)
So chill, let it cook as it will, and enjoy it for what it is – whatever it is. There’s no reason that a holiday romance cannot bud into something beautiful, deep, and lifelong… Just as much as there’s nothing really stopping a marriage from crashing off a cliff and burning. If both party’s needs and wants are aligned pretty well, you’ll have a great time, however long it lasts.
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Incredibly well explained and written. It’s all to do with perspective and being honest with yourself about what you want in life, without having to be with someone purely for the sake of ticking a conventional box.
Telling people what they want to hear only ends up in disaster!
Thankyouu so much for sharing your wise insight!😊🤍
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