Premeditation vs spontaneity? Love or casual fun? Intentional or non-intentional? Naivety or logical? Risk level: it remains to be seen unless you roll the die.
Reality or fiction? Technically they’re both reality, just in different, polarising formats. One is sensory the other is pixelated. Leaving your love life in the hands of a computerised algorithm could be deemed as insane or potentially compromising; whether that be your safety or emotional wellbeing. One thing’s for certain, success stories include co-habitation, marriage and kids. So will Prince Charming be sweeping me off my feet after experiencing love at first swipe? Or do you have a better change bumping into your soulmate as your two worlds collide? Let’s put this theory to the test!
Reality is somewhat like a poker game. On the topic of dating, presentation is everything. Taking care of yourself is an attractive trait to anyone, including taking pride in your appearance. The attire many decades ago was formal, stylish and well put away. People don’t commonly dress how they used to in previous generations especially for the casual running of errands. Joggers, trainers, with hair scrapped into a messy bun is not an irregular sight. Social media isn’t reality after all, we’ve been reminded of that when we see paparazzi photos, unfiltered and pre-edited. In the modern era it’s not expected to dress up to the nine’s unless there’s a spectacle to attend. Looking presentable at all times could activate paranoia and may not be feasible due to practicalities. Away from superficial attributes, a stranger approaching you with a potential romantic desire could startle you. Endless unknowns: married? kids? how old? job? based? interests? goals? newly single? possible cheater? And all importantly, name? And I don’t just mean your first name, I need background-check worthy information. But I’ll give you that, you are cute for complimenting me!
Establishing and maintaining a romantic interest levels is few and far between due to the oversaturated and easily accessible dating apps, which are amassed with people using it as a spin-off LinkedIn or a bedazzled Tinder profile. Meeting in real life can be a breath of fresh air as firstly, you’ve instantly confirmed you’re not catfish and secondly you can get the ball rolling right off the bat, instead of twiddling your thumbs feeling powerless and downcast in your digitalised dating life. But unfortunately, you really don’t know the specimen before you. I’d need more than your digits, you’d need to complete an identity verification form before I even ponder this! QR code applicable?
I would say this though, it’s far more romantic not having a matchmaker or an app connecting you to each other, the best rom-coms were before apps even existed!
Where do I start with dating apps? You’re welcomed into the vast pool of mankind you didn’t even realise existed. Literally people from every corner of the earth are located on these apps, for a multitude of reasons. With that comes undeniable risk especially if you’re not frequenting the same social circles to counter-reference who they are and what they’re about. I’ve heard single ladies from different generations state they’d like to find someone nice, but they’re too fearful of online dating as they’ve already had terrible previous experiences in life never-mind the dangers that may await talking to a complete stranger through a screen that could be a killer, fills them with incomprehensible, overwhelming dread. And to be fair, their hesitancy is rational. Not all people online are bad, but it only takes one bad egg and it could change the trajectory of your life. There are scam artists, fraudsters, cheaters, liars, criminals including murderers. You could be putting yourself in harms way, risk can be reduced by doing your due diligence but is it ever entirely safe? No. But with that being said, there are over 366 million users worldwide, by 2028 it’s estimated to be 452 million. There will be some gems in there, it may be difficult to tell one from the other at the start, but pretty soon you’ll become your own gemologist; magnifying glass included… lol. Analyze, be perceptive and listen to your gut feeling.
Your mindset is key. In the words of Damona Hoffman:
I do like how you’re able to filter through incompatible singletons out there without having to waste your time and potentially money on giving people the time of day. The control is in your hands, that’s what attracts people to these apps. The internet is a useful tool, use it to your advantage. Yes, it may be unromantic but it’s pragmatic. Cut through the smooth talking BS, they’ll unmask themselves in no time. Simple!
Dating apps can be time consuming and a require trial and error processing system, in the end you may not find Mr Right on there but take it in your stride and have a laugh. See it as a way to keep your foot in the dating pool, instead of a means to an end. And one day, you never know, you might cross paths with your soulmate unintentionally going about your everyday life or virtually match to your person. Be the love that want to attract. And most importantly, be happy first and foremost!
What do you think? Should we solely date by introduction only and/or in real-life? Is online dating a serious, viable option? Have you had bad experiences? Is being catfished your worst fear? How did you meet your partner? Comment below!
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This is a great subject, Antonia. My first and second wives were met Organically as I call it, no dating apps, they didn’t exist. Number three and the last time I would marry, was via a dating app that is still around today.
Meeting someone as you go about your daily life is the best way to meet a potential love interest. At least you get to see the real person and not what could be a completely phony profile. The single life is the best life!
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Thankyouu, John! Seeing how your lives complement each other and how compatible you both are is key if you foresee there being a chance of a future, potentially. Everything may look great on paper, but humans are sensory beings, a screen can’t replace that. Following intuition whether that be online or real life while aligning realistic, important factors like a mental checklist is what it’s all about.
And of course, the single life is always a great choice. The love train can be tiresome and draining!
Thankyouu so much for sharing😊🤍
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Tiring and so expensive… My credit score is still recovering years later!
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I’ve never seen a dating app… personally I belive in that there is not this romantic idea of ‘the one’ we could be compatible with a number of people and we will either meet them or not. Roll the die as you say.
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I have thought this way for the majority of my adult life. I do think however, you can align more with one soul than another. Additional signs whether that be spiritually or common shared interests, can reaffirm the belief that it’s meant to be, equating to ‘the one’.
We all have a destiny, the unconfirmed theory behind ‘the one’ may complicate the simplicity what is meant to be, will be.
The destination is key, not the roadmap that led here.
Thankyouu so much for sharing your knowledge, Simon!!😊🤍
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You’re welcome – it’s good to see your perspective on this too 🙂
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I agree with the quote online dating is definitely a coin toss! I remember when I moved to my new city and started to date online it was filled with men saying the same old thing, I always say they sounded like a dating quotes IG page it was like all the men did was tell me what they thought I wanted to hear.
After a year on and off the app I decided to try one last time and I met my current partner it will be 3 years in February.
I think either way you meet people you are taking a chance sometimes it ends with a laughable story other times is ends with a beautiful one.
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This!!! It’s like they get their script from the same book and recycle it constantly. It’s Deja vu in a long line of swipes.
There are some treasures on these apps, look at us haha, very few and far between though, so it’s best to proceed with caution, for sure.
Aww that’s so fabulous, happy 3 year anniversary in advance!! May I ask what app it was? As I know certain apps have higher success rates, so I’m always keen on hearing positive stories as dating apps can really change your life for the better!
Exactly, it’s either a laughable experience or the start of a beautiful love story. Thankfully yours is the latter!!🥹🤍
Thankyouu so much for sharing, hearing how you both met makes me so happy! Mindset and intent is everything🤗🤍
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Thanks Love … funny enough we met in Tinder LOL . My cousin met her husband on the app and kept encouraging me to keep trying.
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Aww that’s incredible! Tinder is clearly where it’s at!! Your cousin too, the success speaks for itself🥹🤍
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Nice post🌅🌅
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Thankyouu so much, Satyam! Glad you enjoyed this post😊🤍
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Nice post 🌅🌅
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I prefer real- time meeting
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Of course! Isn’t that how life is meant to be?😊🤍
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Damn right
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I think I am glad that there was no social media or apps when I was dating… 😉 I was ridiculously naïve and would have been vulnerable to bad guys. I met my husband (of 42 years) when I was 21. He was at college with my schoolfriend. That friend married another college friend. My bridesmaid married our best man and then her friend married another geologist in the circle. We are all still married. Perhaps it is best if your friends guide you!! ❤❤❤
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Bad boys…. That’s always a bad idea! Phew, thankfully you dodged that bullet😂. Aww wow that’s an incredible story, you’re all so lucky and blessed with such a great circle of friends who’ve all found their other half so close to home or via introduction from those in your life that you trust the most!
Surrounding yourself with positivity can be so uplifting and fulfilling, which is what we all strive for🫶.
In a few years time it’ll be your 50th anniversary!! That’s such a blessing🤗🙏🤍
Thankyouu so much for sharing your wonderful story, Kerry!!🤗🤍
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Well discussed but I think lots of people getting settled meeting through dating apps but sometimes it just used as a fraud trap so we should be careful either dating apps or real life. Well shared
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Yes, there are many people that aren’t as they may seem on dating apps so it’s always best to proceed with caution while practicing skepticism, especially initially.
So glad to hear that you enjoyed this post and thankyouu so much for sharing your thoughts, Priti!🤗🤍
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Thanks for your likes of my posts, “Christ And Pre-Kingdom Jews – Pt 5;” you are very kind.
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You’re welcome, you make such great points! Aww thankyouu!🤗🤍
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Thank you very much
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